Laura

Dealing with Holiday Anxiety

I'm feeling huge pressure this holiday season to set goals, make resolutions, perfect my routines and push to make 2018 the best year ever, and I'm burning out! If you are feeling like you need permission to relax, this is it! Enjoy the holidays and take some time to relax.

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Finding a Man who drinks more Tea than Beer

Personal changes that lead to living in a new way are scary and can be isolating. You may be feeling like healing your heart is driving a big wedge in between you and the rest of the world and you are wondering if you're chances of meeting a man with the same lifestyle you are now living is even possible! It sure is. Read on for my experience and how I handled the transition from partying to relaxing and who I found along the way. Read More

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I Stopped trying to be Perfect and fell in Love

Don’t worry about trying to perfect yourself before starting to date or look for your True Love. No one will ever be perfect, not even you, so you might as well embrace that fact and let your freak flag fly. You’ll be so much happier for it and you might even find Love; with yourself, with someone else, or both. Read More

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Why Sarcasm and Snark are Relationships Killers

My wit and ability at a good comeback in conversation had always been something I was proud of. In relationships, I used sarcasm and sass to protect myself emotionally. If something did not go my way in my past relationships, I’d fire off some snarky comment trying to make my partner feel less than or prove that I was right in the situation. So where did that leave me? It left me alone, which was safer yes, but also more miserable. I got tired of defensive, abrupt reactions from people and tired of my own walls. I decided to start sharing my true feelings rather than snap back at someone and my relationships completely changed. Read More

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Vodka: The Not So Perfect Vulnerability Serum

After each apology, I could feel my heart sinking deeper and deeper into my chest as I excused my emotions and threw my own feelings under the bus. I was so scared to be vulnerable and speak up for my wanting more time spent together, wanting to talk more, wanting to connect more, because I was terrified my requests would be rejected. And so I drank, and I cried, and I communicated in a blurred and foggy state and continued to make excuses for my vulnerability when I did show it. Eventually I got tired of this pattern though. I grew weary from not speaking my truth and my frustration at the lack of love in my life grew too. This lead me to make the best decision of my life. Read More

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How to go from Expectationships to Relationships

Last week in my excitement while talking with a client I blurted out the word ‘expectationships’ when I meant to say relationships. But I actually took the word down because I felt like it was an important mix up that I had made and could possibly help others. I remember very clearly the expectations I put upon the dating process, the men I was going to meet, and the ones I started dating and it took a long time for me to figure out perhaps there was something not working with my approach.What I finally figured out was that I was allowed to have expectations, but I wasn’t allowed to use them as a block to intimacy. Once I realized that I was actually allowed to want and need things like exclusivity early on and it didn’t mean I was needy or difficult, my whole dating world changed, and yours can too! Read More

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Why I'm Grateful I was Single for So Long

Whenever we have something in our lives that really bothers us, there is an underlying reason for it. I am so grateful to all of those people out there for asking me about my relationship status and helping me to see that it was something that I didn’t feel good about at that time. It enabled me to figure out why I wasn’t comfortable with being single. The awareness helped me to realize that I did in fact feel damaged and not good enough because I wasn’t in a committed relationship. I knew that these things weren’t true, but I also knew that this was a deep subconscious belief I had to look at before I could begin to feel differently Read More

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